Preston and Hannah went to stay with their dad for the month of August. If your not familiar with divorce decrees with custody issues in them, the non-custodial parent get 2 weeks uninterrupted time with the kids and 2 weeks with the custodial parent taking them over the weekend. I have been divorced from Dewy for 3 years and this is the 1st summer he has requested to use this. I guess its a good thing if he was doing it for all the right reasons. But he is doing it just to spite me because of our last battle in court last fall. Well this post isn't about bashing my ex....its about how crazy I am going without them here. People would think it would be nice to have a break from kids for that long. I however, love having all my kids with me most of the time. Chloe is a bit confused and keeps saying that Hannah and Preston are sleeping still. This will be hard for her to understand as she gets older. Its hard for me to understand and I am 31! I guess this is the only good thing about having him live in the same neighbor hood because they have come over a few times to get things and give me a hug. But it is not the same as being able to tuck them in a night, cooking them dinner, making lunch or breakfast for them. I guess its the little things I enjoy as a mom. They are getting so big they are starting to do most everything for themselves but I still try to "baby" them when they let me. I am glad Chloe is still little and dependant on me and I am glad we are not done having kids. It keeps me in the mommy business a bit longer. I am so grateful they still loved to be tucked in at night. I cherish this night time routine we have had since...forever. I always tell people that have new born babies that still keep them up at night to cherish the time they get to hold them and rock them even if it is at 2,3,4,and 5 in the morning. I know I did with Chloe. They sleep through the night soon enough. And pretty soon they don't need you anymore at night...well when they don't have night meres anymore, get a fever in the middle of the night, or stop wetting the bed(I won 't say which one did this)It just makes me soooo grateful for the time I have with them. Its so hard to turn them over to Dewy even every other weekend. If you don't know why we divorced then I think it would be hard for you to really understand that. Lets just say....he is one person in the world who I don't trust and am afraid of at the same time. Try turning your kids over to someone who you feel that way about. And don't forget to tuck your kids in EVERY SINGLE NIGHT!!
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I am sorry about the situation between you and Dewy, I hope that with time it will get better. The best people that came out of your marriage to him are your darling kids, your a great Mom and I can tell you love them to pieces.
I cannot believe how fast the kids have grown up and how fast time goes in general. It has been 5 months since my last miscarriage and 4 and 1 year since my last stillbirths- not one day goes by that I am not thinking of those babies and what could have been.
So many people take there kids for grantedl - it's a shame they want them to grow up so fast because they make them tired etc. I would give anything to be up at 1,2am etc. just to hold my babies.
I hope with time things will get better. Take care and I love ya!
I know the "empty nest" feeling that you are experiencing very well. I was married to a man who became my worst nightmare and then took our children (after not showing very much interest in them) to punish me as he had always promised me he would. Thank God that they will be returning to you full time. My baby girl who is now 9 has to go back in 5 days after an all too short summer visit. Then it is an empty house until every other weekend.
Pray for those of us who are now non-custodial mothers and also battered women. http://www.uaadv.org/NCM-BTS/Home.html
Monica, we have never met, but we have several things in common. # 1, we both think Dan Roman is a fine man. One of the good ones, and you are blessed to have him. # 2, we both love out kids ( mine are really grown and gone.29, 25 and 19 years old), but I still remember the rocking and holding and hugs and kisses when they were young. # 3, I too was married (20 years) to a man that I found out could not be trusted and who scared me (not for me but my kids). I was blessed in that he didn't fight me for custody, and I had put in my divorce decree that they didn't have to go visit if they didn't want to. That was my smartest move ever! Hug Dad for me, for he is one of my heros!
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